The Way I See It

Category: Essays

  • Assuming I Am Right

    Assuming I Am Right

    My own copied definition of assume:  “Don’t make an ass out of u and me!”

  • You Don’t Know Me

    Today something bothered me that really shouldn’t have, but it did. I try to not let people’s opinions of me affect me in anyway. Usually I succeed. Today though a complete stranger made comments on comments I made to a friend and they did it without knowing the first thing about me, yet they felt…

  • Won’t You Be My Neighbor

    Have you read or heard the lies about Jackson Township New Jersey? Well I am about to dispel those lies with the absolute facts. Before moving to this community after living in Brooklyn for 65 years we looked at other towns in different areas of NJ and about 75 houses online before coming here and…

  • Daddy’s Little Girl

    My father died on May 4, 1969 at the age of 60.

  • Pushed into the “doughnut hole” until death overtakes me!

    “Will you still feed me will you still need me when I’m 64?”

  • My Broken Record

    I have heard enough!

  • Running Scared

    So let me start by asking each of you a question.  Remember when you started a new job? Maybe you remember getting laid off from a job and having to start over?  Maybe you just made a choice to start over in a brand new field, doing something you have never done before?  If you…

  • Merry Christmas Happy New Year!

      Here it is 2016 and another holiday is upon us.  The years seem to fly by so quickly now.  I can remember when it seemed eons before Christmas came around again.  The anticipation of the aroma in the air, the gifts under the tree, the pilgrimage to Church and the family gatherings around delicious…

  • I won’t apologize

    It is the weekend of September 11, 2016.  Fifteen years since America’s last major attack on one of its’ major cities.  So many innocent people died that day.  So many innocent people were injured that day.  So many innocent people remain ill and many are dying because of that day.  Our President elect during that…

  • A father for Father’s Day

    Maybe I am just one of those unexplained mysteries in life. Maybe because I always wondered about my biological father. Maybe that is why I have been so lucky in my life having two “fathers”. My sons’ father is the best father and grandfather I have ever seen.  His unconditional love, his self-sacrificing dedication and his…

  • FLAG DAY 2016

    Awaking on Sunday morning June 12, 2016 I turned on the television as a I normally do to watch Charles Osgood, Early Morning Sunday News on CBS Channel 2 in NYC.  Instead there was a special report about a mass shooting that took place in Orlando FL during the hours of my sleep.  By the time…

  • It Takes A “Special” Man To Be A Dad!

    Special is defined in the English dictionary in this way: unusual or better; held in esteem; reserved; made for specific purpose; arranged for specific purpose, etc. In accordance with that definition, my dad was a very “special” person. Today May 4, 2016 is the 47th Anniversary of his death.  I was sixteen years old. Complex;…

  • Looking Ahead

    Yes, I know it has been awhile since I have been here.  By now I should be filled with words, ideas, opinions.  Thoughts that will somehow change a life if not the world.  It isn’t as if I don’t have lots to say.  There is enough material around to keep me writing for months. 2016…

  • Dear Political Representatives

    Today September 11, 2014 a day to remember our fallen, our injured, our heartbreak seems to be the most poignant day for me to write this blog post. On that beautiful September morning with the sun shining brightly our country was attacked by an enemy.  Their purpose was to hurt our financial and military centers…

  • JOEY Remembered

    January 28, 2016….the first Anniversary. It was one year ago today that Joey passed.  Another sad day to mark in our memories.  Losing our loved ones through death seems to happen sooner and more frequently in this stage of my own life.  I still miss the Joey I once knew and the memories of what…

  • A New Year

    As I sit here reflecting upon the passing of 2014 my mind is clear and clouded both rendering indistinguishable. I always believed life would get better as a person aged. I am finding that it’s truly all an illusion. Life is really what you make of it. As the body breaks down and the mind…

  • Peace on Earth

    Christmas time is one of my favorite times of year. My heart rejoices remembering that once a year a Man was born who influenced millions with His acts of kindness, His teachings of love and peace, the sacrifice He made of His life so that people would believe that His Words were true and that…

  • Lessons in Life

    You cannot run from your past. No matter how deeply your mind’s self-preservation hides those experiences. Doesn’t matter if they are good or bad, happy or sad. Those memories of the past are still there. Every once in a while they get triggered. A recent family issue has brought one of those memories to the…

  • Fourth of July

      It’s amazing how quickly the time flies. A half a year has already gone by and the Fourth of July is upon us once again. Funny, it never seemed to go as quickly when I was younger. I can recall waiting for the holidays and it seemed to take forever before they materialized. I…

  • Father’s Day 2014

    First and foremost, A happy Father’s Day to all the Fathers in my life! It has been said so many, many times almost any man can be a biological father, but it takes a “special man” to be a true father in every sense of the word. I happen to know a few in both…

  • Happiness

    Everyone wants to be happy.  It’s more than an adjective or adverb, noun or verb.  It’s an actual feeling.  It’s hardest to do when you are a young adult because all of the troubles in the world are on your shoulders. However, if one would learn to push the negative out and allow the positive…

  • Love: Reality or Illusion?

    All of my life I have been fascinated by love or the idea of love. Is it solely emotion or is it an idea within one’s mind? Or perhaps it is a combination, something I have come to think of as the emotional mind. Growing up my mother always told me, “There is no such…

  • My Beloved Wanda

    My Beloved Wanda

    My Goddaughter, Shanell Nekiia stated to me tonight, “Kathy your girl left this earth yesterday” With those words came a shock of disbelief, until I heard from her sister, Roxanne who confirmed what I was afraid to face, my beloved friend Wanda passed away from a heart attack on January 30, 2014 at the age…

  • New Year

    It’s been quite awhile since I posted anything on my blog. I haven’t had much oomph lately nor much inspiration for my thoughts. I am hoping that in this New Year I will receive insight that will open up avenues that will be of interest to those who follow my thoughts in words on paper.…

  • Veteran’s Day 2013

    Being truly grateful to our military past, present and future as well as to their families seems such a small gesture when one really thinks about it, however not being grateful or not saying at least a thank you is a true travesty.  Yet many Americans have chosen the latter.  It may be that many…

  • Change is a coming!

    It’s amazing to me how I keep hearing how murder in NYC is down each year, yet every time I open up my NY Daily News, my local paper, I see another shooting or knifing. Usually it happens in neighborhood that holds a housing project. Everyday there is an innocent child or adult who gets…

  • The Blues

    Some people hear the blues and the first thing that comes to mind is music. Other people hear the blues and it denotes a feeling. It isn’t a feeling that one can easily explain since it is an emotion I believe from the brain. It isn’t the same as depression for depression one must be…

  • Down Memory Lane

    reminisce~verb~indulge in enjoyable recollection of past events. Sometimes our memories are best forgotten and sometimes they are all we want to remember.  It”s funny how life works at times.  Back before I made mistakes and regrets, there was a time I had innocence and naiveté.  The latter time is the time I am remembering today.…

  • Uneasiness

    As much as I want to believe that I can handle almost anything, my mind and heart remind me that I have an emotional mind. I call it that because no matter the amount of logic that I think I have my emotions rule my logic and cause me turmoil and stress. There are so…

  • Befuddled

      Hi! I know it has been a while since I wrote on my blog. Lately, life has taken a curve and my thoughts have been preoccupied with family woes. I would much rather be optimistic in my posts and write about happier moments and thoughts than the ones I am experiencing as of late.…

  • Who doesn’t love ice cream?

    Ah summertime! Hot, hazy, sunny skies, beaches, lazy days and ice cream! I can remember waiting impatiently for either the Mister Softee truck or the Good Humor truck to come sauntering down our street  playing their jingles and capturing my kids attention like no other sound! It was those few minutes on those busy days…

  • Joey

    My brother-in-law Joey is one of those guys who people can easily label as “one of a Kind”. He is a very special person. I have known him for most of my life and I have never known him to be anything other than kind, caring, helpful, quiet, and born with a true heart of…

  • My Baby Boy

    My very best friend in the world is my baby boy. He is only seven years old and yet he has the wisdom of a man much older than himself. Each day he gives me unconditional love. Each day he protects me. Each day he cuddles with me. Each day he looks to me for…

  • Justice

    Repost of my Blog from 12 years ago. Justice is truth and Truth is justice.

  • Where My Heart Is

      BROOKLYN BROOKLYN, OH BROOKLYN From the Verrazano to the Brooklyn Bridge Through the Ridge and up the Slope Diverse personalities in every nook Streets of Brooklyn are “off the hook” From Coney Island to the Navy Yard Local churches, restaurants and museums Amazing all people from every scene, So enticing on the movie screens…

  • Higher Education CAN take you Higher!

    Perhaps it is Nostalgia for me today that I’m sharing this once again, or simply sentiment. In either case it is from my heart. 2013 seems to be the banner year for me . It is the year I was forced to retire because of my affliction. Those years I spent in the University hold…

  • My May Memorial

    In Flanders Fields John McCrae, 1915. In Flanders fields the poppies blow Between the crosses, row on row That mark our place; and in the sky The larks, still bravely singing, fly Scarce heard amid the guns below. We are the Dead. Short days ago We lived, felt dawn, saw sunset glow, Loved and were…

  • Poetry II- Love

    Today my thoughts turn to love and something my mom always said to me. She would often tell me, as I would speak about loving someone, that there was no such thing as love. I realized a long while ago that she said that because of all the hurt that she had been through in…

  • Poetry’s (repost 6/8/26)

    Reflection of a 2013 blog post. It seemed so relevant in the World 13 years later … I felt I needed to post it once more.